Moving boulders : live each moment as it happens

Some people live in the past: “If only I’d taken that job”, “Why didn’t I work harder at school”, “Maybe if I hadn’t lost my temper that day”.

Some people live in the future: “Once I leave home”, “When I get promoted”, “In retirement I’ll have the time”.

Actually this universe is rigged so we exist in the [...]

Moving boulders : just start

So I’m sitting at my computer feeling weak and tired. I intended to do some writing, but what’s the point, it won’t be any good. And anyway I don’t feel like writing. I’m lethargic, unmotivated, really can’t be bothered.

But I make myself start.

That’s all, start, take one step. The agreement is that it doesn’t matter how [...]

Moving boulders : a new series for everyone

This new series will be tricks that work for me when I need to get myself going on a bad day [...]

“This bus is under attack. Please ring 999.”

What is it about us that causes to behave stupidly in a crowd? [...]

Savour your dreams, hold on to the twilight, roll up your sleeves

Are dreams a good source of ideas? If so, how do we get the best from them? [...]

How to ensure the poor are always with us

Our town has many charity shops selling cheap but smart second-hand clothes. Whether or not you feel happy buying this sort of clothing for your family is just a matter of attitude. You don't have to be rich to be well clothed. You do have to be less concerned with the latest fashions or exact [...]

the different approaches to counselling 3 : do it yourself

We need to go beyond getting solutions to our problems from other people. [...]

The different approaches to counselling 2 : try this at home

Sometimes a counsellor will suggest trying something new which might help solve your problems. Some counsellors major on solution-focussed therapy. [...]

Am I intelligent? Because if not then I’m a failure.

Franco and Lenny Henry: kinda ‘thick’ guys, but so what? [...]

So how can I set targets that are likely to work?

Article 10 in the ‘Effective goal setting” series: finally a summary of how to set goals that have a good chance of being achieved. [...]

How can we tame bad memories?

Bad memories can damage and distort us until we find a way to take charge of them. [...]

When I’m depressed HOW do I keep going? (Part 3)

It’s not easy to get going when depressed, but there are tricks and strategies worth trying. They work for me. [...]

Why do people set targets?

What are the good, and bad, reasons people set targets? [...]

Where is your motivation coming from?

Motivation can come from within or be applied by other people from outside. Guess which works best. [...]

Which direction does your motivation face?

Motivation can be towards something desirable or away from something unpleasant, and there is a related factor that matters. [...]